Dear espressopass:

It may be then that the woman your thread is about has been chasing her mother and then, her now husband for love, while you’ve been chasing her for love. Because neither one of you had that at home. I am glad to read that you will be seeking a therapist and hope it’s a good therapist. You are welcome to tell me about your childhood, if you want my input.

Regarding “I can’t believe how much time, effort and love I have wasted.. How do I come to terms with that?”- I think that wasting lots of time and effort on a personal level and on a global level is the norm, not the exception. Personally I wasted decades of life, including my whole youth. It is not easy to come to terms with it, but I have. Because I see the bigger picture, that it is indeed the norm or the rule, and not the exception. I know that I am not alone. A tragedy is less of a tragedy when it happens to almost everyone.

anita