I think it would be good for you to let her know that you will not be in touch anymore. It was really good for me to read this. I recently ended a 2 year relationship. And now initiated 3 months of “no contact”. I know that end of three months I want to talk with him- to see how he is doing- and kind of to see if he’s had a shift in his attitude. It would be easy to try to stay in touch with him to see if things “change” between us. But I also know it can be really confusing when one person wants a relationship and the other doesn’t. So it’s good to read a story like this so I keep good boundaries. If we talk and I don’t feel like there has been any shift between us I guess I’ll just have to be firm with us both that we can’t be more than friends- and if this is too hard reinstate some kind of no contact. These definitely aren’t the romantic moments we dream about as kids. But treating each other with respect and love is definitely something I envisioned as part of adulthood. So at least I can try to do that. Even if it’s painful.