Hi Anita here is an update:

Today I didn’t talk to him until later in the day around 6pm and I asked him if everything was okay. He said he was upset about us and said that for him it’s hard to understand what he needs to do for proper things to happen, that he is stumped, that he misses me but doesn’t know what to do. I asked him to elaborate more and he did by saying he doesn’t know if he wants for us to be happy or for us to end on good terms, that it’s hard for him to let go because he sees a future with me but also doesn’t want the past to repeat. He said he was leaning more towards trying to make things work.

I responded saying I understood what he was saying and that there is no rush and I had mentioned the doubts he had and told him how I saw it as a bad indicator and he said, he personally doesn’t think doubt is a bad indicator, but that it just creates more questions and said he didn’t make any final decision. I asked him if this space and time benefitted him and he didn’t answer the question but responded with “It makes me think.”

After this I told him my opinion on all this saying: I felt hurt when he said he was unsure about us and that I reiterated to him that I wouldn’t want to be with someone who questions whether or not we should be together. He responded saying how it’s not being unsure but it’s making the same mistakes again if we were to be together.

I told him how we really have to work things through 100% if we want this to work because there’s a lot of improvement that needs to be done on both parts. This was around 6:30pm.

At 7pm he messages me saying: how we can solve these problems.

At 7:40pm he double messages saying: he doesn’t like being like this, that he would like to fix things, and that is his decision. He asked me if I trusted his word on his decision.

I responded to his two messages when I had the chance (8pm) and I was surprised by his change of thought and questioned why he changed his mind bc of his uncertainty earlier. He said he was taking a shower and he was thinking about life, me, and the future. I said I needed more than that and he followed up saying he can explain tomorrow and that he loves me very much.

After all this, I am just more confused. I should be happy that he wants to work things out but deep down I am questioning why the sudden change? I thought he needed time and space to think. I’m just very worried about trusting his word right now because just a few days ago my entire love life crumbled and I was such an emotional wreck and I’m just not sure how I feel about all this in the moment. From everything I explained so far, what would you suggest for me and for us? I just don’t know how I feel right now… what do you think?