After reading your response, I told him how he was treating me like an option and that he was in fact unsure about us. I told him I respected his space but he was toying with my feelings and I don’t want to be with someone like that. I sent that to him and just logged out, I didn’t even care to see if he opened it or responded.

I didn’t talk to him the rest of the day, ignored his texts after I sent that msg and then he called me late at night. He asked me how I was doing and immensely apologized. He apologized for all that he had done, what he had said and told me that he was frustrated the day he asked me for space. He was frustrated with life and himself and he was overthinking and being anxious about us and that’s why he said it.

I immediately told him that it wasn’t fair that he let his frustration get in between us. He couldn’t even tell me he was frustrated and I asked him multiple times that day if he was feeling okay. He apologized even more and asked if there was anything he can do to help me feel okay and I said there was nothing he could’ve done because I just needed time to process what had happened for the past few days. I’m going to be honest we are on talking terms still, but I am not opening up my arms and just letting him in quickly. I am trying to process everything and I do talk to him on social media to simply check in. (No texting or calls)

But Anita I am so confused now. Apart of me wants to be with him but then apart of me is thinking if it’s the dead end of our relationship. The reason is because during this time where I gave him his space, I wasn’t comfortable with it. I cried nonstop, couldn’t focus on anything, waited to see if he texted. During this week I decided to journal just to clear my thoughts and it made me think of the qualities I want in a relationship. i want effort, love, respect, communication. Before we dated we were friends for about 2 months and even during friendship and beginning of dating, he put so much effort in. He made me feel so loved and valued, I was so so happy. Beyond happy to the point where I questioned if this was real and what I did to deserve this type of love (this is my first ever relationship). Flash forward to now, we just get into these arguments because of miscommunication, he doesn’t even put a fraction of time and energy or even effort. He does say he loves me and cares for me but doesn’t show me at all. So after reflecting on what I want, I don’t know what to do. I want to give him a chance after this break to see if we can truly be happy but then there’s another side where I believe I’ll just end up being disappointed. I always go above and beyond for him, always make him feel loved and show him, and I even tell him what he can do for me, but I haven’t seen that effort at all from him. Is it normal to think these things during our so called “space?”