Dear KC:

“I have ocd and deal with depression and this lockdown”- you are welcome to share more about your struggle with OCD, depression and the lockdown. I myself was diagnosed long ago with OCD and depression, having suffered both from an early age. Maybe there is something useful that I will be able to offer you if you share more.

Regarding your friend, you wrote: “I didn’t use his words because they were crude and inappropriate”- crude and inappropriate in normal circumstances, but for a drunk man lying naked in his bathtub, expecting to be alone, relaxing into his depression, being interrupted by someone, is not normal circumstances. So what he said during that time, when he was drunk naked, was not inappropriate to the circumstances. The fact that he didn’t apologize later, after sobering up, that’s a different story.

I am surprised that he didn’t ask you for his keys back, after being so distressed about you entering his apartment unannounced. Maybe he is so out of it, that he didn’t consider asking for his keys back; maybe he is not distressed about what happened anymore.

anita