Dear YI:

I believe you that you didn’t want your parents’ relationship type (“negative about love.. toxic when it came to love”), and that this man’s love and relationship type was the “stable and secure” type. I think that you got scared with him because you were afraid that he will turn negative and toxic.

I think that you got scared about losing a good thing; you “fell out of love” so that it doesn’t hurt when that happens.

What we experience as children, we don’t forget and we are afraid to always to re-experience it. Deep inside we don’t really move away from our past until we understand it better and get engaged in healing from painful early life experiences.

anita