Dear Katie:

“I don’t think I am really trying to contact him to necessarily try to get back together right away, just to establish that there is still something there between us”- I think that it was already established that there is something between the two of you. Problem is that he told you what is not there between him and you, and that’s the spark he mentioned (“I don’t feel like the spark is there”)-

– you can’t argue about the absence of a spark, and you can’t bring it back with a conversation, no matter how logical and wise the conversation, on your part.

It is clear to me that you do want to resume a relationship with him, or that you are very close to want that. And I think he will figure it out too, that you want to get back with him.

anita