Dear Dan:

Growing up without a mother and with a father who wasn’t emotionally available is a very powerful experience in the life of a child. Some call our childhood years “the formative years” because our brains are formed during childhood. Our relationships with our parents are .. formed into our brains, and continue to be powerful in our lives as adults.

The fact that your relationship with your father is better now doesn’t change the fact that it wasn’t a good relationship when it mattered most (during those formative years of childhood). The fact that you don’t think about your mother anymore, doesn’t mean that not having her around as a child is not affecting you now.

anita

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