Dear Anita,

Thank you very much for taking  the time to read and reply to my post.

Regarding my mother, I don’t think she expressed a genuine apology so far. Indeed, we sometimes spoke about those times but she sometimes gets very defensive and seems hurt, so I don’t pursue the discussion anymore. I somehow understand, she was young, about my age, felt alone with 2 children.

My ex boyfriend used to apologize after some bad fights, seemed sincere. However, he would sometimes add “Well, it’s not like I hit you or something.” which made me feel that he did not care actually about the matter, or that if only I stopped reacting or panicking when he drank things like that would not happen.