Dear Cecilia

I’m so glad my advice has helped you. You sound like a lovely person who basically has her head screwed on the right way but, like most of us, can make mistakes with men from time to time. Nothing to be ashamed of, just learn and move on.

You said:

“she thought it was someone who took little initiative”

This makes me wonder if he behaved the same way with her as he did with you? He may just be relationship-phobic, for whatever reason. He seems to go just so far and no further, perhaps just enough to keep you on a string and available for sex? Not the kind of man any woman needs in her life. He probably got hung up on her because she didn’t really want a relationship with him. Had she decided she did, he would most likely have gone cold and distant with her, too.

I think it’s important to stop thinking about him as much as you possibly can and look for someone who actually is ready for a relationship. Easier said than done, I know! But I think your future happiness depends on moving on without him.

all the best

Jan

• This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by Jan.