Dear Tania:

Welcome back (I didn’t notice you posted until a few minutes ago!) I am fine, thank you. Sorry to read you are not. Maybe getting out with your husband for long walks can help, getting into the outdoors if the weather is right and social distancing can be maintained.

I figure you have to stop looking at his phone, not even for a second. Make a conscious effort to never look at his phone or in the direction of his phone. Do nothing to spy on him otherwise. Make him feel comfortable in his own home. If you treat him like a suspect of a crime, no  wonder he wants his accuser to leave.

That’s what I think you should do: make him feel  comfortable and safe in his own home, where he spends so much time with you. Give him all the space that he needs within the home. When you feel badly, don’t turn against him. Calm yourself otherwise, and post here anytime.

anita