Dear Laura:

“I think she loves me more than I do”-  her behaviors don’t read like love: “possessive and vindictive.. suffocating.. revengefulness, spitefulness, un-mercifulness, bad-mouther”= not love.

You want to end the friendship with her but you are afraid that if you do, she will get angry at you and ruin your life. Your therapist advised you “to slowly fade away and to avoid any brutal confrontation because she will lose her mind”-

It is important to assess the danger she poses to you if you end the friendship (or more accurately the hostage situation you are in, where you want to leave but  held hostage by her “revengefulness, spitefulness, un-mercifulness” etc.). In what ways do you think she will ruin your life, specifically?

(Once you figure out the ways, you can address each one and prevent or minimize the ruin that you are anticipating).

anita

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