Dear Neverdyed:

I absolutely agree that you don’t have to be nice to him based on him saying that you are friends. I don’t know what he meant by saying that you and him are friends, what’s behind those words. These are words, after all, and it is easy to say words, it takes a few seconds to say things, it doesn’t take energy.. it’s easy.

I do hope that you put yourself before him. All we owe people is to not put ourselves before them at their expense. But put ourselves before others not at others’ expense, it’s what we owe ourselves.

Let’s say what he is interested in is being friends with benefits with you.. that’s a kind of a friendship, but not a kind I would like to have if I was you. If I was you, I wouldn’t let him define friendship for me.

anita