Dear Neverdyed:

I hope you still feel “confident and light/ worry free” and that if you don’t feel this way, that you will feel more and more moments of it.

You definitely don’t wat to continue to shrink your true self! If the cost of a relationship is the shrinking of your true self, better not be in that relationship. Unfortunately, this is a cost lots of children pay for their relationship with a parent, hiding their true self so to not get rejected by the parent. Later on, the now adult keep looking for that hidden true self.

“One thing I’m afraid of is that I’d be selfish or totally cold when putting myself before him”- can you tell me more about this sentence, more of what you mean by it?

anita