Hi Ry,

One of the ways to get past the painful emotions of a breakup is to have no contact whatsoever with the person you’ve broken up with. This is what your ex is doing in order to get over you. But you want to keep the lines of communication open as friends because you miss her and her son, you can handle this type of relationship with her, and also because you are all alone in a new town and need support. But she can’t handle this type of relationship with you. As painful as this situation is, I hope you consider stopping all contact with her in order to allow healing to take place. The time may come when she is open to a friendship with you but right now she’s not so you really have no choice.

I understand how devastating it is for you to lose contact with her son and I’m sure it is a terribly painful loss for him as well.  I wish you both didn’t have to experience this particularly painful loss.

B