Hi Grace,

I understand why you are hurt by this.

Your best friend’s travel plans changed from leaving on Aug. 17th to Aug. 2nd, and it’s probably safe to assume that she was swamped preparing for this earlier departure date and for that reason neglected to contact you to tell you her change in plans. Her boyfriend telling you “I thought you knew” is a good sign that not telling you was merely an oversight on her part.

I’m sorry she didn’t wish you a happy birthday. She’s probably been so caught up in leaving for college that it slipped her mind.

I can’t explain the sleepover with your other best friend and why this friend was blowing you off yesterday. What do you think is going on there?

If I were you I would let this go. Try to understand, with all the changes happening for your best friend, how she could have missed updating you on her new departure date and also wishing you a happy birthday. Leaving for college for the first time is an emotional and stressful time for many. I would give her the benefit of the doubt and just let it go.

Happy Birthday, Grace! 🙂

B