Dear Sunflowerbabe:

Who knows, maybe, just maybe, you can help him quit smoking and in doing so, save his life and the lives of the second hand victims of his smoking. Maybe. All you can do is bring it up to him, as gently as you can. Maybe he will be motivated to quit because of the strong connection he feels with you.

But tame  your hopefulness with realism, so to keep yourself grounded. People do quit deadly habits, but many don’t. You will have to keep your values in mind and heart and not give those up because of the strong emotional attachment that you are feeling.

anita