Hi Rose of Yellow.

Thank you for the response. I think you missed part of what I’m sayign because youre Plan C is in fact my Plan B, which is for me to contact him whenever I’m available and my kids are with their father. Also, although Ihear what you’re saying, truly, I am not concerned about whether or not he likes me. It’s a very practical thing. I’m concerned about what is the effective way to be able to see him becuase I like him. (I know he likes me and will continue to like me regardless of what I do in this regard). I’m just trying to decide if I should just A. continue to say no when it doesn’t work for me but also just pull back and let him figure it out when he doesn’t get to see me at all- OR- B. continue to say no when it doesn’t work for me but also feel free to contact him when it does work for me. (In that case, he will still benefit from being able to see me, but so will I)

Anita,

Also, thank you so much for taking the time to  write. To answer your questions:

1. I don’t work at home normally, but during the pandemic I do. Sometimes my teenager is home and can watch her little brother.

2. “Cave in” means scramble to figure out a way to get a babysitter, etc. at the last minute, which I have done.