You know, PE, sometimes this is simply how life is. It could be the distance or it could be this person you think is real is not real. We often never know why someone we really like doesn’t seem to really like us. Life is often strange. Her own personal life may be chaotic and stressful and/or what she is looking for in a partner is not you. There are so many ways to create scenarios but reality is reality. The way that she did not answer you when you asked her why she just wanted to be friends either shows a real disconnect between what you thought was going on and what she thought was going on or shows a certain issue in personalities. Can you accept that what you want is different from what she wants? If you can allow this experience to be a guide and a learning time, you will gain much from it. Sometimes people move in and out of our lives. You obviously like her a lot and you can put a happy thought out there for if in the future you meet up with her again.