Hi Anita,

Yes, this does answer my question. Thank you so much. I think the best thing for me to do is to see how the next few months go with the election and the pandemic and see how I feel then. I have a feeling I will circle back to you on this, though, if that’s ok?

If I can just ask one more unrelated question too, here…. wondering if you have any insight as to how to not be consumed by sadness/embarrassment/hurt by ones parents regarding their pro-Trump racist views. My parents are well-educated people who don’t say racist things outside of our house, but the fact of the matter is, they are racist and continue to support Trump, mainly because of his white supremacist views. I never knew this about them until a few years ago, and this has added to the heaviness in our relationship that was already there from their lack of emotional support (they are manipulators and screamers). I still continue to visit them, mainly to see the family pets and to see my old friends who live in their neighborhood, so I don’t want to cut out contact completely, but I end up feeling sad almost every time I see them or speak to them. My husband is from England and his family (who are very wonderful, supportive people) are all over there. Sometimes I wonder why I’m still here when we could be there…. But moving won’t fix things, I know, so wondering if there is a line of thinking I should be using when I get down about my parents’ many issues. Thank you so much and sorry for going off on an unrelated issue!