“Dear Gregory: Please explain to me as clearly as you can the following: 1) How often do you talk to your son on the phone/  online? 2) How often do you visit him in person, and how long does each visit last? 3) Who is he living with and how is he being treated there??? 4) Why is your son and you not living together someplace (away from Juba and his mother)? 5) Is there a plan for your son to be living with you anytime in the future?”

Dear Anita,

This is the interesting and genuine topic today to talk about so that you can give me clear way of this.

1. I talked with him on the phone once in a week but he doesn’t talk clearly to tell me what he is missing or lacking for. Sometimes he fear to talk me over the phone until I sweet talk him to be happy and tell me what he wants. On the other hand,  I’m confused sometimes when he doesn’t talk well to me is to becoz I’m far away from him or not. I just heard from the aunt that your son say he need bicycle and sneak and I promised him when I come soon I will buy him his bicycle.

Qn 2.

I visited him in February when schools were opened,  I went there to take him to his school where I paid $1000 baby class. I only spend 3days with him and left bcoz I was need back from the work place in SSCAA (south Sudan Civil Aviation Authority). Anita,  due to lock down it has make things hard to go there to visit him. Not bcoz lack of finances but there was no way to go there again.

Qn2(a).

I last visit him in February,  until up-to Now I never see my son again. Now the lock down is being lifted Iam going there to him this coming week by Wednesday.

Qn3.

He is living with maternal my aunt (the wife to my uncle, brother to my own  mother ) and he is living in the same house with some other kids in the house. Whose their father is also working with UNMISS in  Wau. And in the same house there are girls  living him and the elder girl is the one taking cared of him so much. I do asked some of the people who go to the house to see them, to give me his health care, and how the treated him as a baby!!!  But they always give me concrete statement that he is being treated well among others kids.

Qn 4.

This is my plan now to go there once and for all to live with him in the same place. Because I’m going to school to complete some rating and add on some hours.

Also I’m confused because I’m going to Poland and I don’t know what I’ll do to my son since he left again alone and perhaps I’m not going to come back soon until I finish.

Qn 5.

Yes I’m planing to live with him when I come back after I finish my flying school with some rating of (FK50). This is where I will be able to be with him in the same house but with some measures to put across.  He will come back from boarding school and go straight to me where we can live together. That is when the give him holiday,  I will always tell him to come to me and when the holidays is over  I will send him back to boarding school again.

That is all my plans. U can now give me your suggestions.

Cheers.