Dear Mima 37/ Luna-Lily:

You are welcome. You wrote yesterday: “I have CFS/ME and PTSD but I’m free of my ex family and their abuse. I’m now taking as long as I need to heal…My mum refused to be there for me so 4 years ago I decided to stop chasing her and decided I didn’t want them in my life.. I had to put myself first and recover fully”-

– You referred to your original family, which includes your mother, as “ex family”, and you wrote that you are “free of (your) ex family”- so I thought that you have been in no contact with your mother and the rest of your original family for the last 4 years.

When I read this today: “Yesterday my son got his .. exam results. My mum didn’t even show up with a card or small gesture.. it hurt me”-

– I can see why you are not healing and recovering as much as is possible for you: you are still in contact with your mother and that contact makes the Trauma and Stress in your PTSD, not Post but current. It would be more accurate to call it CTSD, as in Current Traumatic Stress Disorder: as far as I know, you can’t heal from trauma when you keep contact with a significant source of the trauma, a contact that maintains the old hurt, which happened only yesterday, and is likely to happen again. And again.

anita