Dear Rhaenys:

The last boyfriend, you had work problems and stress, so you were sleepy and tired during the weekends, and you “needed a sleep and rest”, yet “he wanted to stay in the car and be intimate after midnight”.

He had an apartment and you wanted to spend the night there with him, to wake up in the morning with him, and yet “he never proposed we go there” . Instead he wanted to have sex with you in his car, then drop you off at your home and proceed to go out with his friends.

In your original post you described this young man, “He was really nice, really kind.. he was still much in love and good to me”-

– A man who knows you are tired and sleepy and yet insists on having sex with you after midnight in his car- is not a “really nice, really kind” man who is “good to you. A man does not want to spend the night with you in his apartment, and wake up with you in his arms in the morning, is not a man who is “much in love with you”.

Can you explain this contradiction to me, having described him a certain way while his behavior is not at all what you described?

anita