He needs a lot of time. Often, I couldn’t get in contact with him for days or hours. I asked for check-ins–like “Good mornings” and “How are you’s” and he responded, “I don’t need that.” He also just generally is a very busy person for a relationship with his work (he could be working until 11 pm). He would seldom respond to my texts after a while, figuring if I needed something I would reach out. I often felt discouraged to reach out though… since he would never respond. I think he felt the relationship was going well and didn’t realize I still needed reassurance and effort. I think he felt angry about that when I told him, but at that point, I was so fed up by my anxiety and for feeling abandoned that I didn’t want to continue.  When I asked to talk again after our initial breakup, I asked what his needs were and he said he didn’t have any. That he was completely self-sufficient and reliant upon himself. He never wanted to fully put me in his life, although he did have a lot of fantasies about me in his life–marriage, retirement, buying a house.