Dear c:

I read your reply to another member and your original post. You read like a reasonable, decent, wise woman who sees the different angles to a story, the bigger picture, knows what works and what doesn’t. And so, when you write: “I feel very loved and seen by him… I feel chosen”, I trust it to be true, that he indeed sees you and chooses you and loves you as you are.

“He holds a lot of regret over how he behaved in his last relationship and feels responsible for how it ended… he carries some regret and pain though regarding his last relationship. Like he’s still grieving it in some ways.. a part of him would like to go back to fix it. But.. his last girlfriend is single, lives near him.. He doesn’t reach out to her”-

– Reads to me that his regret, grief, pain, sense of over-responsibility, wanting to fix it- all that is about his childhood, not about his last adult relationship. His last relationship, seems to me, awakened an old, deep wound.

anita