Dear Anita,

The night after the break up was very hard. Yesterday was still hard. I need to work and also cried in front of my co-worker. Thankfully not so many people there because of the pandemic. I am living alone, so I think it is better for me to spend time with my co-worker at noon. At evening, the sad feeling was coming again, how we spent our times together and it will end. I even try to download tinder to try to forget (but I feel stupid), so I decided to deleted again. I try to google “how to fix a broken heart” and I found a Ted Ed video from Guy Winch. He said not to idealize our ex for every thing that makes the relationship not work. It is quite working, I made the list on the phone and it makes me not idealize it. Today it feels better as many task that I need to do at work.

Actually when we decided to break up, he stated that he want us to still be friends and still contacting each other if we needs help. Until know he still texting with me. Because before I helped him with his work, he still text me about that. Is it better to completely cut the ties or doing this “friendly relationship”? I am not hanging my hope getting back together for now, but I am afraid it will later. As I say, I am a people pleaser type, it’s hard for me to say no. Am I being too kind?