Dear James15:

I understand, the relationships between you and her, between your family and her, between her family and you, and between your friends and her friends, are all virtual, no one ever met anyone in real life.

You apologized to her over FaceTime for being jealous about Bob, and for interfering with her business,  not trusting her to handle her own issues. She told you that she wanted to limit the amount of time she talks to you and that “she needed space to heal”. You feel horrible and guilty, and you are afraid that the virtual distance will tear the two of you apart (“I feel the distance is going to tear us apart”).

“I’m not sure if I should send her streaks. I don’t know how long I should give her space, if we’ll ever fix our friendship, or is this over”-

My suggestion: send her one short message, telling her (in your own words), that you are sorry for what you have done wrong to her, specifically telling her what those wrongdoings were,  then tell her that if the two of you talk again, you will be careful to not repeat those wrongdoings. Also, let her know that you will respectfully give her what she asked for: the time that she needs to heal, therefore you will not contact her until she contacts you first. And finally, encourage her to contact you anytime she wants to, if and when she wants to. Then end the short message with a friendly note, such as a smiley face emoji.

After that message, have the self discipline to not contact her in any way unless she contacts you first. Also, don’t talk about her to online people that may tell her what you said about her and the relationship with her.

If you do that, from the little that I know about the situation, I think that you have a good chance that she will contact you. If you choose to send her a short message and you want my help in phrasing it, send your first draft of it to me, and I will give you my input. If she contacts you in the future and you want help in how to respond to her, let me know as well.

anita