Dear Satya:

You are welcome. I am glad to read that you are feeling better today, and Happy almost- Birthday!

“he just got convinced as I was suffocated and stressed living with my family”- so, he may understand that living with him and his wife is likely be suffocating and stressful for you (?)

“having a plan B” in regard to your career is an excellent idea. Having a career separate from this man in a few months, and before you make any decisions regarding a life with him, will make that decision easier to make.

compatible and understanding person

“somewhere I still feel, I would have been very happy with him. He knows what I want, what I feel, how.. everything”-

– maybe he knew what you wanted and felt, and was a “compatible and understanding person” when you lived with your dysfunctional family, in that context. But now, as he is married and you are living away from your family- it is a different context, a different situation. In this new situation, he may no longer be a compatible and understanding person to you; he may not know or want to know how you feel and what you want in this new context.

“For now, I’ll just keep calm, just enjoy my birthday tomorrow”- Please do keep calm best you can, post here anytime, and I will remember to wish you a timely happy birthday tomorrow!

anita