Dear Katie:

“he was abused. Something happened to him that he won’t share”- he did not share what happened to him with you, but he inflicted the pain of what happened to him on you. And he kept doing it again and again.

“I hope for his sake he finds a really good therapist that will dig a bit deep”- there may not be a therapist good enough to dig a bit without him getting up and leaving.

“I do feel lighter, as if a weight has lifted off of me”- I am glad to read this, and looking at the title of your thread, “I thought he was my forever till the end”- I am glad this weight will not be your forever till the end.

It feels good to read that you changed your lock so that his key to your place will not fit, and that you sent his key back to him, telling him to not bother to return your key because it no longer fits the lock, and that you are trying to have the double cemetery plot split into 2 singles.

Overall, having read all that you shared about him, I do not like him. I don’t like him because he inflicted unnecessary pain on a woman who did not hurt him, a woman who truly loved him for a long time, and he did it repeatedly, and when he had the opportunity to get the help of an excellent therapist, he could have used that opportunity to stop hurting you, but he walked out. I hope he stays out of your life forever more, and/ or that you keep him out.

anita