@Sammy good to hear from you mate. No news from my homie @Kkasxo, I do hope Covid hasn’t taken its toll!

Thanks for the appreciation! Men rarely hear it but I’m learning to accept it ever since being with ‘B’ – one of the things I now love the most she isn’t afraid to express her appreciation of me and reaffirm my achievements.

I have a good vibe about this new relationship for you. You’ve done the self work mate that’s the hardest part now reap the rewards and continue building on that, don’t let fears undo it all.

I think with your new potential the desire is definitely there especially if you are feeling you can’t keep your hands off him. Feeling that feeling again is exciting in itself!

Sometimes what we need has always been right there but we avoid realising it due to our reinforced toxic relationship patterns. It often takes real self healing and inner work to realise what is good for us. So I don’t find it strange at all that you see him now as potential romantically.

I’d take the delayed gratification approach which will help you both develop a bond or union that’s based on a stronger foundation not lust. By that I don’t mean be cruel, work him up and blow him off to test him but explain your concerns that you want to be exclusive (giving him security you are serious) pbut slow so you don’t crash and burn, if a man is serious in return he will understand and work with you. Not rush or push you. That will naturally heighten the original attraction itself ten folds because you’ll both know where you stand (no anxiety ruining it) and you’ll just focus on the moments and naturally growing the relationship together.

Slow and steady really does win the race. For me it’s been an excellent exercise in self control!

I got to return to work but thought I’d give you a quick reply. Go for it!