Dear Eva,

“But he kept saying that our situation is difficult and it can’t be public. I’m furious honestly… Because he told me such stuff, romantic, believing him that we will find a way, and he just finished it.”

It’s totally understandable that you’re upset. His habit of dating in secret isn’t normal and I guess he is manipulating you by saying that he’s worried about moral implications, when in reality, there’s nothing immoral about you two being together – except his own lies, because it would turn out that he’s dated other girls from your circle in secret. As Anita said, it’s not just immoral towards you and his ex (and possibly other girls), but towards other members of the group as well.

I don’t know what motivates him to do that, there must be something in his psychology that drives him, but it’s not necessarily your task to find out why and help him change. I wouldn’t even stay friends with him, because of his manipulative nature.

“I don’t know how to behave with his ex who is my friend now and she is constantly in contact with me.”

Actually, Anita might be right, probably you should just tell her (or tell someone else in your friends group, whom you trust). There’s no point in playing along in his scam and allowing him to fool everybody.

It’s just feels painful because it seems like he choose her over me…

No, I don’t think he chose her over you – he fooled her too. So I think it’s best to say goodbye to him, because with his current mindset, he’ll just cause you more pain.