The thing is rather than actively seeking or actively avoiding those kind of updates or exposure, let them occur because the more they do, the more mental toughness you develop, it makes you more resilient in the long run so you’re not affected so much each time. So what if she’s changed her pic or speaking to another guy. You were already aware of both those facts. So don’t let it have control over you.

My ex obviously went down the get under someone to get over someone route with casual flings, he was a typical boy but my initial reaction was to crumble, I went for the booze to numb the associated feelings.

But @Tim1 and @Shelbyville were great at that time so was my best friend who acted as my buddy. I pulled myself together and was tired of feeling down so I worked on reframing my thoughts. I told myself this was bound to happen. I told myself it was not a reflection of us or me but just him, how he had chosen to deal with the fallout and it was on him. I told myself it was no longer my problem. The last thing I wanted to do was spiral into further doubts about not being enough when the relationship had already worn my self esteem down.

So the subsequent bits on his arm I didn’t avoid hearing about but I just chose not to react to either. Seriously why should you allow someone who doesn’t even want you to continue ruining your days. Just let the wave of emotions pass through knowing it can only get better because you will find your soulmate.

Having people around you who are positive, supportive and inspiring is so fundamental in achieving a healthier outlook. I’m glad you have your sister to lean on who understands the effects of anxiety and depression in a better way. With men, I’ve realised you have it tougher without the same support network as women.

Lucky you, I’m guessing you’re not from the UK if you’re able to go out to pubs or restaurants or even friends for drinks? If you’re rule bending then i don’t blame you I’m tired of being locked in here! There goes my holiday too after today’s announcement. I really hate this new normal!

Gaming is akin to retail therapy for women! So I’m glad you’re able to enjoy that. With tv as silly as this sounds, try watching something that doesn’t require much brain engagement so nothing like a psychological thriller more junk like reality TV. It can be very soothing during heartbreak!

My weekend was spent with my parents even though they are annoying at times I’m glad I got this time with them to be back home. In few weeks I’m moving into my new place. New beginnings. Fingers crossed.