@Jay2023

Yeah drinking is overrated and I’m glad you haven’t gone down the dark road of using it as a crutch as I did. So thats willpower there.

I’m the same with drugs but it doesn’t harm to at least talk to a GP. If you do need them in a medical professionals opinion then maybe try them. Have you ever tried therapy? Again not something I could bring myself to do but there’s loads of people who swear by it and have been helped by it.

I think you genuinely cared and had love for her. It’s really shows because you want her to be happy even if its not with you. I’m very much like you. I want my ex to grow, I want him to learn to love in the way I did and I want him to be happy. Do you know how amazing that quality is in a person? How beautiful and rare it is to care and love unconditionally.

It’s okay that right now you’re e putting yourself first mentally it’s another step towards self love.

But based on the genuine feelings you exhibit like me one day when the moment is right,you may not be best of friends with your ex but you will reach a place of harmony one day if the initial connection was real between you both. So if she had care for you too pat the very least she will meet you halfway one day and appreciate the person you are.

Letting go of hope of being together in a romantic relationship is key because having a pseudo friendship in hope of being with her will just destroy your self esteem further when it doesn’t happen. So only ever offee friendship when you no longer want her as a partner and have done the healing and working on your self.  This is what it took for me, it led me to a place where I accepted my ex as a part of me. I’ll always care about him, I loved him but I’m no longer in love with him. We will never be best friends as there was too much chemistry and history so I can imagine if the circumstances were right, we may end up doing something we both would regret but we share a mutual respect and care enough to check in on one another now and again or if there’s an emergency and when with mutual friends share conversation.

The most important thing I’ve learned from Tim was intentions. So set your intentions right you’ll find happiness.

Stay away from social media if you can’t handle it. No point adding to your existing pain. And anytime heartbreak is a very hard place to be so I completely understand.