Dear IpkRO9:

Welcome back! I am sorry that you were in pain when you posted last, and I hope that you are feeling better as you read these words.

First, congratulations for earning two Master Degrees and having a decent job! This means that you are capable of living independently- independently from any man and from your parents/sister!

Whether you marry or not, and who you marry (if you choose to marry)- these are your choices to make: you are an intelligent, educated, employed, independent woman capable of and deserving to make her own life choices.

Second, you wrote about this man back  in December 2018, that he is “polite and respectful and understanding and encouraging.. a rather ethical man and unfortunately a people pleaser”. Last we communicated was a year ago, April 2020. At that time you did not mention his pornographic activity. Today you shared that this activity existed before the lockdown and “became worse during lockdown.. especially after November”-

– so, this “polite and respectful” man, this “rather ethical mean”, this “people pleaser” has been pleasing himself sexually in front of  a camera, transmitting the video images of his penis to anyone and everyone who is online and is interested in the viewing?

If I understand correctly, then congratulate yourself, not only for (1) earning two master degrees, (2)  having a decent job, and therefore, for being able to live independently of any man, but also for (3) not being the wife of a man who transmits those kinds of images  all over the world-

– you wouldn’t be content in such a marriage, would you?

anita