Dear noname:

You are welcome and thank you for your appreciation. I did the hours long work today on your threads because you are worth it!

I wouldn’t come back to your mother if I didn’t think that you can get un-stuck if you understand something about her that you did not understand before. What I am suspecting today, that I did not suspect before, is that your mother did not only neglect you emotionally, but that she is actively dishonest with you, meaning, she puts on a show: that time when she appeared validating and empathetic to you (July 2017), and at many other times, I am guessing.

This will explain why an intelligent, educated, persevering, amazing person like yourself is indeed stuck. Again, it’s not her failure to be attentive and affectionate to you, that keeps you stuck, but her (then and ever since), ongoing pretenses and her lies, is what I am thinking at this point.

anita