Dear Ishita:

You wrote: “One thing I wasn’t sure if I should, but I was thinking of writing him one last post, a peaceful one, telling him everything I have in my heart, since the call ended on a bad note. Just a peaceful note”-

– reads to me that at this point you are obsessed with X. Wanting to write to him one last note is like wanting to scratch an itch, so that it no longer itches, and you feel peace instead of distress. Problem is, if you wrote him one “last” note (scratching the itch), too soon afterwards, you will think of something new that you didn’t tell him and should tell him (feeling a new itch), and the need to scratch this itch, and.. again and again.

TeaK asked you: “What would you like to tell him.. so you could feel at peace?”

You answered: “I don’t know exactly what I want to tell him.. I keep replaying all the previous events in my head, trying to  figure out.. I just want him to know… it’s hard to stop thinking about this now. I keep replaying all the scenes trying to know where did it all go wrong… To be honest I am finding it really hard to let go of this situation”-

– You can’t stop thinking, you keep replaying thoughts- that’s obsessing.

Did you notice in the past an inclination to obsess about other people or topics?

anita