Hi Ashmitha

Is it normal to feel on and off about your significant other? Yes it is

My observations have been that many couples panic when they experience these “off and on” feelings and ‘feed the wrong wolf’  even when its a part of every relationship experience. I think its related with confusing the ideals of Love and Like Is is possible to Be in Love while at the same time not always be in Like? Yes.  I would argue its actually more difficult to Like someone 24/7 then it is to Love them 24/7 .  If I love someone I must also always Like everything about them. This type of relating often comes with a relating to the idea of Unconditional Love as being Unconditional allowing  similar to  the misconception that Forgiveness means the person forgiven is off the hook and can’t be held accountable.

The experience of Love and Loving is very much connected with the experiences of accountably, responsibility, meaning, purpose, sacrifice… so much so I don’t think the experiences can be separated.  If such is the case it would be very normal and likely to feel on and off about ones significant other.  A practice of Mindfulness and discernment might be helpful in determining if boundaries have been crossed that need to be addressed.