Dear Aimee:

You shared that your friendship of ten years unexpectedly turned into a romantic relationship a year ago. It is a “brilliant relationship” and you feel that he is your best friend. Recently, you’ve been feeling insecure about a friendship he has with another woman who is in your mutual friends group.

“I know he’s not the kind of person to cheat on me but I just can’t stop thinking about this.. and it’s making me miserable, I don’t know if it’s just a thing that happens to me at the year mark where my head starts putting me off the person I’m with, is that a possibility?”-

– I think that it is a likely possibility because nothing changed in the relationship other than it reaching the one year mark, and you wrote: “In every other relationship I’ve been in,  once it gets to around a year mark I realize I don’t want to be with them anymore and I end up leaving them”.

If you would like to explore this possibility with me, you can- if you so choose t- share about your parents’ marriage as you experienced it when you were a child, what was their relationship with each other like?

anita