Dear sossi:

You shared that while unemployed and in a relationship with the man we are discussing, you got pregnant. He was “elated, celebrating it”, but you panicked: “I really panicked. I didn’t like the physical feeling. I felt very uncomfortable, and I was terrified of that loss of control, the weight of the responsibility”, imagining that the man will not stay with you and you will become “a single mother, broke and struggling”. You then got an abortion, a “whole process (that) was awful.. long and drawn out, I suffered physically a lot”-

– I am sorry to read about this suffering that you shared about today.

To a lighter matter, perhaps, you gave an example of being made fun of on the street: “yesterday a woman stepped out of her apartment building on the phone and started laughing loudly saying ‘oh! you should see the scene out here today!'”. Because you were the only person on the street at that time, you figured she was referring to you being a scene. You also shard: “the women here, they are Latin and I am more Germanic looking”.

I am trying to figure out why a woman would react the way she did to seeing you, a stranger walking on the street: did you, or do you dress in a way that is unusual, or that attracts a lot of attention?

anita