Dear Lana, I’m so sorry you had to go through these traumas and are still living with the emotions they bring up. It’s very easy to ask, “Why me?” We’ve all been there. Any many of us still are with at least one of our past traumas.

Unfortunately, that question keeps us stuck. We end up in a rut while our mind tries to blame us/make logical sense out of what happened. And there is no logical sense to it. Bad things don’t just happen to good people; bad things happen to ALL people.

So now what? You can’t change the past. But you can let go of the emotions that are still coming up. A really simple and powerful tool to do this is to ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?” You can ask yourself this question every single day, over and over again. You can say it aloud. You can write it down. If you are persistent, the answer will come. Asking this question will help connect you to your soul, and it will give you the guidance you need to understand why the emotions are still there and what is needed to let them go.

You will need to listen for the answer and trust when it comes. But don’t worry, if you’re unsure, the answer(s) will keep repeating until you get it. It may guide you to a new therapist, a course on inner work, a friend to talk to, a new career, visuals or words that help you process the emotions… the options are limitless. Your soul knows the best options for you.

Letting go of the emotions is not easy, but it is necessary if you want to heal. You don’t have to forget anything that happened. You simply need to forgive yourself and let go. Asking, “What can I learn from this?” can open you up to get there.

I pray you are able to let go of the emotions and baggage so that you may begin to live freely and connected to your light again. If there’s anything else you’d like me to pray for, please feel free to let me know.

Much love,

Char