Sammy, I will try and be better and the bigger person. Let’s see what happens, truth be told I do miss him. I do hold what you say in high regard and have learned a tremendous amount. Very much grateful! You look after yourself too! Just an @ away!

@Jay2023 good to hear from you bro. You sound like you’ve really made headway. The combo of medication and time has done you wonders mate! Great that you’re realising there’s other connections out there to be made and you’re not rushing into another romantic liason or void filling like I did. Trust me when the initial honeymoon phase of a new thing wears off, you just feel hollow and back to square one all over again.

Keep at this pace, working on yourself, soon you’ll kick the addiction to your ex completely. The growth and work you’re doing will slowly amass to a really big impact on your future and help you form the relationship you deserve. Well done bro, proud of you! Do you think you can skip CBT therapy now and have a handle of your anxiety?

Sammy as ever is on the money my reaction to ‘B’ was pure stupidity and unnecessary. But it is good you understand where I’m coming from, I’m over the ex but mate I find the idea of being in the same room as my wifey, best friend and the woman I was once with intimately and loved just awkward!

‘B’ I get she has a huge heart and she’s also very smart she may see something I can’t yet, but honestly though I still don’t get how she would be okay with it, if it was vice versa I know I wouldn’t be pleased. Do you get me? Or is that old insecurities?

I don’t know he broke my trust by betraying me yet I still miss him. Her never.

If I’ve truly forgiven though then I shouldn’t be holding it against him forever that he happened to fall in love with the girl I was dating? If they are destined for one another than that’s that. I was destined for ‘B’ I’ve found myself and happiness, so should I just be more mature and give them a second chance? After all it was a second chance from ‘B’ that turned my life around completely. Would you ever talk to an ex or an ex friend again especially in the context of having a wifey? Maybe not letting go of all the pain is a male thing. We get stubborn!

It’s been good having another guy on this thread so keep in touch, I have to admit other than my actual bro, the lads they just can’t deep it ahaha. So I’d appreciate having someone who understands from a male perspective too when I’m in a pickle! I’ll be sure to return too!