Hi Javier,

I just wanted to let you know you are not a failure. Don’t “should” yourself. I am 30 living with my mom on disability for bipolar. There are a lot of reasons why I should feel like a failure. In this time, I’ve decided to do good the best that I can and follow my passions.

It’s okay if you’re not at the place you want to be. Life is unfair. Repeat after me “It is not my fault.” It is not your fault you are struggling in life. So many do. The important thing is not to compare yourself to others.

You have a purpose. You just have to follow your inner voice, not your inner critic. I see that your inner critic is LOUD and dictating all your thoughts. A professional therapist might be able to help you deconstruct your thinking and positively reform the situation.

Here are some ways to positively reform this:

1. I am not a failure just because I think I failed

2. I am a survivor

3. I am enough as I am. Labels do not define me.

4. I am at peace with what I have and where I’m at.

5. I will choose to do good with the time I have on earth no matter what that looks like (big or small)

6. I accept myself no matter what.

7. I have taken a great step in asking for help because I know that I am worth helping (today in forum) but will continue to find  help such as therapy or support groups or letting others know how I am feeling.

8. I have a life to live and things to still look forward to even if I don’t know what they are yet.

If you are have suicidal feelings, please call this hotline: 800-273-8255

I believe in you. You can do this. You can turn your life around. It’s not too late. You are going to be okay.

As for the having kids in your twenties thing, don’t idealize that. You can still help kids by volunteering or having them (adopting as an option later too) if you want. There are many ways to help youth. Don’t fret about not having one by now.

I will be sending you love and light.

Sarah