@Dannydan

Yessssss Danny! Fear is such a powerful emotion it can make us believe things that don’t even exist! 

The key is to just communicate effectively and listen to each other. Never ASSUME anything without concrete proof, it is better to check. Assuming what the other person is thinking or doing based on your own thoughts is the termite of relationships. This behaviour is learned. So can be unlearned with focus. 

E.g:
[  ] You don’t hear from someone so assume they don’t care – but that person may be unwell, overwhelmed , busy with a work project etc. Unless you know something for sure don’t assume.
[  ] Someone doesn’t understand your choice or you don’t get the promotion, so you assume they don’t love you or you’re bad at what you do etc 

Assumptions leave people feeling misunderstood also creating a negative spiral of thought for yourself. 

The more you know what you are assuming, the more power you have to change what you are assuming into perspectives that open, rather than close, possibilities for you and your life. So open up your ability to communicate even if scared, so you can love from that place of wholeness that you are capable of! 

So proud of you Danny for not giving up on working on this. You will make a wonderful life partner and she already sees all this, you need to too! 

She’s a very lucky woman to have you too. You two numpties needed that space and argument. I think it made you realise what needs to be worked on. Sometimes when you’re in that loved up bubble, you lose sight and can become comfortable. Every now and again a prod is needed to make us appreciate a person who is so supportive more. 

Wow. The house thing is giving me goosebumps. I really don’t know how she’s going to react. It really could swing either way but that makes it all the more exciting. Remember don’t have expectations just listen and accept the outcome. The love you share is always more important than any other variable. 

Thank you for getting back to me and giving me an update. Stay in touch, I’m rooting for you! 

@Jay2023 again don’t know what’s happening in your life. But give us an update when you can, hope you are good. We are here for you if you need x