Dear Umm:

I would have considered some of your boyfriend’s distress as valid if you clicked on love icons on photos of your ex-boyfriend (photos of him alone) knowing that he is married to another woman, and/ or while in the relationship with your current boyfriend).

But if this is not the case: no love icons on your ex-boyfriend’s photos since you’ve been in a relationship with your current boyfriend, and previous icons were clicked on photos of your ex and his wife, then his distress is not about your past but about his own.

“he asked for my ex’s first and last name a day before, and I thought it was just casual”- do you remember how it came about that he asked for your ex’s name: was there a talk about your ex that preceded his request?

anita