Dear Ashmitha,

I can’t tell if it is my own insecurities making me feel this way or if his behaviours are concerning.

Unfortunately, his behavior is concerning. It wasn’t that clear in your last thread, although it was strange already then that he doesn’t want to talk to you on the phone, whereas he does frequently with his family. But now it’s very clear that he doesn’t care about you the way you care about him. The fact that he hasn’t told his family about you (as a serious, committed relationship with the prospect of marriage) and that he doesn’t want to spend time with you on the weekends, but only after work for sex basically, is very concerning.

You say he’s respectful – but how is it respectful that he hides your relationship (of 1.5 years) from his family? That he doesn’t want to spend a weekend with you doing common program? If he’s not interested to spend lots of time with you now, then when will he be interested?

You also say he’s a good guy. But I would like to ask you – how exactly is he good towards you? How does he show his appreciation towards you?