Thank you for both of your responses. It is painful to take that in but what you’re saying makes sense. In our culture it is more common to not tell our parents until it is very serious (I haven’t told my parents yet either). But I don’t see why he hasn’t told his cousins or sisters since they are close. I can see how I’m settling for less than I expect. My friends’ relationships that have started months after mine are progressing faster than mine.

I guess I find he’s good to me in terms of how he interacts with me in person. When I bring up complaints, he just listens and never raises his voice at me. He acknowledges his mistakes. I appreciate his calmness because I’m used to seeing men around me with anger issues. He always tries to pay for me when we go out (I don’t always let him), but it is a nice gesture.

What do you suggest I do about this? I am going to bring it up to him. Withhold intimacy? Ask for weekend dates? Ask for phone calls? It seems like a lot. Stopping the intimacy until I feel my needs are being met seems most appropriate to me.