Dear Felix,

you’re welcome, I am glad you’re feeling a bit better.

i keep doing something which i will regret it (like posting on social media). Like if i post it or not.. both choices will make me feel regret.

Yes, as I told you in my previous post:

“You have a tendency to condemn yourself no matter what you do. You’ll always find some reason to condemn yourself and regret that you have or haven’t posted, and beat yourself up about it.”

You’re very afraid of other people’s judgment. Your mother judged you for being weak and for making her worry. How do you think your father judges you?

In any case, you have this belief that no matter what you do, you will be judged. As I said, once you develop more self-esteem, you’ll be able to worry less about what others think and express yourself more freely without fear of their judgment.

I cant take off this regret that i used to brag about myself in the past…

I also did stupid things on social media in the past, for which I was embarrassed. But I’ve forgiven myself, because I didn’t know better. We develop (hopefully) and grow over time, we change and become more mature than we were in the past. It’s a positive thing that you’re now aware of some of your past actions, which you did when you didn’t know better. That shows that you’ve grown as a person, and it’s a great thing.

What you can do if you really feel embarrassed about your past activity on social media is to delete your old account and create a new one. You can even take a pause from social media for a while. This will also signal to people that you’ve changed, that something significantly changed about you.

How do you feel about that? About taking a break from social media and then re-emerging with a new account, as a new person, with more self-confidence and less need to impress?

• This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by Tee.