Dear Kath,

I have been on the receiving end of this ssituation. In my view, you did have an eemotional affair. But it doesn’t change the fact that your last relationship was not in line with what you wanted from your life. Its obviously easier to find someone else before leaving the last relationship and often people develop emotional relationships when they are struggling with their current ones. Its good you realise that…. next time if you find yourself in a relationship that doesn’t work, take input from neutral parties as you have been advised well… and then walk out before falling for a new person. It builds emotional backbone and then you can build your new relationship on an even stronger and mature footing. Its okay, it happened, its human. I hope your current relationship works out and if there are challenges which are normal part of any journey, you know how to address those. All the best.