Dear TeaK

Thank you once again for replying on my problems.

You said:

“Yes, simply don’t mention it again, let it go. It was just 2 people, and you’ve learned your lesson, you haven’t posted about it any more. It was a mistake, but no big deal, life goes on. I am glad you feel calmer and with less pressure to post things that will make you feel better about yourself.”

= I feel like i wanna start a new fresh path for me…. after learning from my past mistakes… I wanna be a person who has very little pressure, as i cant handle pressure and it causes me stress, and what i’ve done before gives me pressure because of my own doing. So do u think i should just let go of the past mistakes (such as showing off to prove that i’m rich, posting something embarrassing on my instagram stories & posting to prove that im wealthy)…. like should i just let everthing about it go without thinking anything? Like completely let go without analyzing anything. Because i still feel uneasy as i still saw it as an unsettled matter. I tried distracting myself by doing something else, but will end up thinking about it when i stop doing the activity. So should i just not think about it at all? Like from those past mistakes, what do u think is the worst possible scenario? or actually there isnt any worse scenario at all and im just overthinking things.

You said:

“My advice is to spend the following months (specially since you still can’t go out too much and meet new people) working on yourself in some way, developing some skill, or exercising, or anything that will give you a sense of accomplishment. Try to choose something that you like and enjoy. It will distract you from thinking about finding a girl, and will do wonders for your self-esteem, I guarantee you.

Is there a skill you’d like to develop? Or some hobby that you enjoy? Because you said you spend your days mostly in your room (when you’re not at work), and I think it would do you good to change that and get more active.”

= Tbh there isnt really any hobby that i enjoy…. idk why. What i enjoy is only watching something in my room…. i feel like im like this because my parents never let me do any stuffs…. and also because they want me to continue the business and right now they didnt ask me to do difficult stuffs… like only helping in the office doing easy tasks…. but i dont want to blame them either as im also lazy.

Most people i know after graduating uni are trying to find themselves a job, whereas i dont need to….. do u think i need to do the same as them? As i feel left behind, why am i different and i feel nothing special (only continuing business, while many of my friends work hard to get a job).

But sometimes people i know (who is older than me, and working for way longer than me) said that im so lucky that i dont have to work so hard…. im so confused, as people at my age see someone who finds a job by themselves as hard working, as see someone continuing business as nothing special (like dont need effort to get the job)….

As with my position right now i dont need to find any job and just do easy tasks in the office (i know you’ve said that i should ask my parents to task me something to make me feel accomplished, but i cant just take someone’s roles in the office…. as i’ll be taking their jobs).

Do u think im still being immature here regarding on how i view jobs and work stuffs? As i wanna learn so i wont make the past mistakes. Also i believe my parents will never lead me to the wrong way, i always believe that they want me to achieve the best… right now it’s just that im confused with my situation.

You said:

“I had to chuckle at this. If you were 32, it would still be young, but 22 is very young. You have plenty of time to find a girl who’ll become your wife.”

= Thank you for saying that im still very young, i feel relieved. I’m always worried that im running out of time because i always heard people said that most average boys marry before 30. And it’s just 7 years left, in which for me isnt a long time. Also because many of my friends are in a relationship, so they keep asking me….

But i guess you are right, even 32 is still considered young…. like i shouldnt force and pressure myself.