Dear Jack:

You asked me 3 questions: 1) “what on Earth does she want?”, 2) “Is she just using me to make him jealous and step up?”, and 3) “She must be using me right?”

In order to answer your questions best I can, I need to understand your story better. To understand your story, I need to ask you 4 questions. Following your answers to my questions, I will do my best to answer your questions:

(1) Your thread is about your relationship with a woman. For 11 days you did not reveal a detail that is very relevant to a relationship: she has another man in her life, a boyfriend. Why did you not reveal this 11 days ago?

(2) On one hand, “She.. doesn’t like PDA” (Public Displays of Affection), on the other hand, in a party last Friday, in public, and in front of her boyfriend, “she was all over me- flirting, touching me.. chasing me around”- so.. she is okay with PDA after all?

(3) On May 27, in your original post, you wrote: “We’ve been on 2 dates.. I would consider this a good sign”- a good sign for what?

(4) The title of your thread is “Help me figure out if she’s playing me or not?”- this concern that she is playing you is dominant in your thread, and it seems to me that you were already played by other women or other people in your life, and that’s why you are so afraid that she too is playing you. If I am correct, will you share about your past experience with being played?

anita